It happens so often that we move to a new place and suddenly find ourselves resisting to anything that doesn’t resemble or is different from the previous place we were living in. Especially, when we move to a new state or a city or a country for a long time we tend to build a loop around ourselves which is completely based on our memories! Memories about our family, about our previous house and our friends from the previous city.
I’ve moved in a dorm as I am living away from my home for studies. I never shared my room with anyone back home. I was so territorial, and now, I share my room with three other guys! It’s not like I completely hate being where I am but something always seems to purposely hold me back from adapting to this new city and place completely. Hundreds of things keep running through my mind everyday and surprisingly, none of it pertains to this present place. It’s always about my old friends, my home city, my family and my best friends. To look carefully, it’s very me who’s holding myself back from being comfortable and adapting!
Many a times we feel lost in new places. At first we’re so desperate to feel comfortable in that place but soon our good old memories from our old places start hitting our head. We get in a constant habit of comparing our ‘not-so-sorted’ present with our perfect past. And without realising it, we soon start giving up our ability to look at things by a new! Everything starts becoming a competition between our ‘better-than-present past’ and our present.
We are so well adapted to our previous lifestyle, our city, our home, our job, our family, our friends! All of this is a routine and thinking of going away from this for long doesn’t seem a good idea. We build our comfort zone, that’s our territory. And when you get out of it, the pull of memories is so strong that it doesn’t let you go around with your present properly. It’s mutual, the memories keep banging, flashing and we let them! Letting them screw our brain even more, making it difficult for us to embrace our present.
We all are scared of letting go. We don’t want to let go of our past because it has somehow made our emotional selves into what we are. I am scared of letting go of my past because I’m scared of losing myself. I am scared of being someone completely different after few years than what I am now. I have been so careful about the choices I make and the people I keep in my life. I’m scared of losing touch with my emotional self. But maybe it’s time that we let go of a few things and use our memories as a source of inspiration to move ahead and accept what’s coming and not let these memories make us progressively weak in an emotional sense. Let’s make our weaknesses our strength!
There are good people everywhere. There’s always someone who we’d find merging in our aura. Just wait, let go of fear and desperation and wait. The good times would come sooner if we let ourselves a bit loose, merge ourselves in the colours of new place and people. Things wouldn’t be same as earlier, but it means that there’s a scope to experience and feel something different,to start discovering new, different people and places. And amongst all this, we’d also find time to introspect and know ourselves better and discover the strength we have, that we never knew of before. Holding onto our memories and living off it would simply push away our present chances of doing better.
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